That’s not to say you should immediately dump a partner who doesn’t know what your gender means! Not everyone knows what it means to be non-binary, gender nonconforming, demigender, agender, gender fluid, et cetera. And of course, no one knows exactly how you identify until you share it.

Sometimes, it is worth explaining to a loved one. They might be confused or unsure at first. It can get a little messy, for example, if you’re dating a lesbian who has only been with cis women, and you come to realize you identify as genderfluid, as a demiguy, or gender non-conforming.

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